Wednesday, November 7, 2012

Holding my tongue and praying my heart follows

I know it's been awhile since my last post. But, I have been convicted for awhile about a certain subject and today when I read my devotional I just decided I needed to come clean, put myself out there a little. Maybe it will hold me accountable, maybe it will help someone else or maybe it will just get it off my chest...either way, I need to say it.
    I have been in a sad place for awhile. Don't get me wrong...I am functioning like normal but have pretty much felt like at any moment I could burst into tears. (which I have done at very strange times-not my best moments) So, for awhile I have tried to blame hormones or others for my new found "overly sensitive" side but I have also prayed long and hard about the situation. Although it might be easier to continue to blame others... I believe what God is showing me is that I, the mom, the tone setter of the household, the one that is supposed to "open my mouth with wisdom, and have the teaching of kindness be on my tongue" (Proverbs 31:26), am dealing with the heavy burden of shame and guilt.
See, I, like most people, carry quite a bit of baggage from my life. Deep hurts and pains that effect my daily life and create struggles and obstacles. When I choose to not hold my tongue or make sure that I am speaking truth and love into my children's lives the guilt I feel for dumping that hurt into their lives is debilitating. It makes me question my ability to be used by God. Even in places I've been blessed to see Him place me for a distinct purpose.
So, for months I have felt....well...useless. I hadn't noticed what a  horrible feeling that is before now. When you believe God has a purpose for you, that you are on a mission for God there is super natural strength pushing you forward, driving you. But, when you feel "un-useable"(my new word) you just feel like you are wandering around, going through the motions, trying and failing (yet again) at doing your best. Because without His supernatural power behind me....I am unable to do my best.
   As I read my daily "wake up call" I mean devotional this morning entitled "Me and My Mama Mouth" it all clicked.(Light bulb) I am tired of letting my shame and guilt make me "un-useable". I do not want to allow Satan to turn moments of Godly conviction into something disgraceful. I want to tap into God's supernatural power, embrace some imperfect progress(from the book Unglued), humble myself and tell my children sorry. I want them to know I'm a work in progress and I make mistakes. I want them to know imperfect is usable. I want a do-over. I am blessed to worship the God that made "do-overs" possible.
So, for the month of November I will be posting the above verse in my home and I will work on creating a habit of having a tongue that lifts others up, creates a safe home and spreads God's truths to others. I am going to need so much prayer while doing this though. Although, I know these are Biblical truths it is hard for me to let them "sink-in". I KNOW they apply to me I just want to BELIEVE it and FEEL it. I don't know if that makes sense but that is my attempt in putting my feelings into words...
Thank you for reading. I would love your thoughts, inspirations, prayers and comments.


  1. I totally feel ya! I think we all feel like we fail at times. God uses these times to teach us and refine us. Most of us only turn to Him when things are bad and so bad things have to happen sometimes to get our attention! Keep your head up, post your verse and I will pray for you! :D HUGS CP

  2. I am! It's now officially posted on my refrigerator. Thank you for the prayers.

  3. I'm just now reading this so if this season has passed then praise the Lord! :) But I did want to say that I know you aren't alone in this place. I feel like there is such a discouraged spirit among me and many of our peers. I don't know if it's the season of motherhood we're in or what but I know I have specifically been praying for a few friends who I felt just needed a little encourgament, to have a spiritual refreshment. Now I feel like I'm in that place of being overly sensitive and could burst into tears at any moment. It's like I feel the weight of the world and am overcome with a sense of stress and a "what's the point" attitude. As I was talking to Jay the other day it was just so apparent that the enemy is trying to keep me from moving forward. There is going to be something beautiful take place and today my job is to pick myself up, trust the God who's always faithful, and keep plugging. My job isn't to figure out how to right all the wrongs or to create a perfect world. My job is to love the Lord with all my heart and lean not on my own understanding. In all my ways acknowledge Him and He will make my paths straight. Sorry this is long and it's mostly for me to get it out not for you to read. HA! I'm giving myself a pep talk as I type. So thanks for being a sounding board. I love having people like you in my life. Thanks for making yourself vulnerable and putting your thoughts out there.

  4. Thanks Jamie. I have gotten so much better with this issue. It is stilll a daily struggle so it was so good to reread this now and look back on where I was. God has brought me a LONG way. I'm so grateful. Thanks for the kind words and "pep talk" :)